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Bedwetting

Bed wetting

Bedwettting, sometimes referred to by doctors as ‘enuresis’, is one of those awkward, embarrassing, upsetting conditions that can seem to have no specific cause, especially in older kids. It is, however, very common (it happens to one in seven kids under five and one in 20 aged ten) and there are plenty of things you can do to prevent it without resorting to treatment, and to minimise the stress when it does.

Bedwetting itself means a child is actually asleep when they urinate. Though a lot of kids are dry through the night by the time they are three, the bladder – and the ability to control it – develops at different speeds for everyone. Bedwetting frequently runs in families, but it can also be triggered at times of stress, anxiety or unhappiness, such as starting at school. Lots of liquid before bedtime is another contributing factor, especially if drinks are fizzy or caffeinated. Some kids just have a small or underdeveloped bladder, but occasionally bedwetting is a sign of another, more serious medical problem such as a urine infection or diabetes, though in these cases there will be other symptoms. So what can you do to help a bedwetting child?

First, don’t feel you need to put the nappies away too early. Even if kids are fine during the day, it’s not uncommon to need nappies at night even after they have started school. Don’t punish kids or make them feel guilty for wetting the bed. Comfort and reassurance until they get it right are likely to be much more productive. Get your child involved in changing the sheets, and give them a little reward if they get through the night dry. A waterproof sheet can protect the bed itself.

If a child grows older (seven and beyond) and the bedwetting continues, it’s worth mentioning it to your doctor, but with a bit encouragement and training it’s one of those conditions that should just naturally pass.

For more information or support with bedwetting – contact ERIC

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Hey. It sounds like everyone in this conversation is a grown up adult. And I can't even begin to understand what its like on your side of the bed wetting situation. But I'm 14 and I still have trouble waking up dry and that's embarrassing and that's probably the reason I was afraid to talk to my parents about my problem. I keep it a secret from them for about 2 months before I got the courage to talk to my mom about it. It truly helped to know my mom was willing to help and she was understanding when I told her. Whatever really helped. Me ask for more help with it she was willing to help work out how I could help get a handle on it. While I was hiding this secret though I looked up info on many sites. So sites like this otherse were more like doc. Journals. And I found I more than like my have a thing called nocturnal neurosis. Which basically means I sleep to heavily and my brain didn't get the signal to get up and go use the restroom. When I found that this was my most likely case for my bed wetting problem. I felt better knowing that 1. Wasn't the only one with this problem 2. I could over come it And 3.most over come this with either time or easy ish help I found on many sites that the parent needs to be supportive and mine was. I also found that stress could trigger some of this and my parents were going through a divorce and the after math still hasn't completely worked it's self out and this isn't and easy time for me. But that has contributed to the wetting problem. I just want to tell you all that this isn't some we as kids are proud of and we want to stop as much as you want us to. And we need support. During this struggle. I still haven't overcome this problem yet but I only have an accident every now and again. Thing I found that helped a little were reducing liquids before bed, going before bed, an alarm system did work a little for me but not much. I have heard they do work well for some people though. And as embracing as it was wearing diapers did help a little although I was very reluctant at firs I soon realized it did help a lot with less laundry,skin irritation, and other problems with stains. It has been a lot better with out others knowing even grandparents don't know. And I feel better know ing they don't know. But it's not hopeless just make sure that your kiddos know you are there for them. And since almost all your posts are older I hope you've had luck. Good luck to all of you and I hope my perspective one this may have helped





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My son is 11 he wets the bed every night and is wet in the day. He is currently at alder hey under a consultant and there is no improvement, has had medication, alarms etc and it's still a problem. He is due to start secondary school in September and I am desperate for some help





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I'm 21 and iv been bed wetting all my life and its almost nearly every day it happens. I have been on so many medication to try and stop it by doctors my Most recent one is vesi-care which helped me stop for a lot of the time, but Iv got a partner know and we are engaged and we want to settle down but I can't live with the embarrassment of wetting every day for the rest of my life, I'm getting older and as much as my partner says he will help me through it as it isn't my fault, I'd still like to Know how I can defeat this problem for good. Could you please give me some advice as I'm really fed up.





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im 13 and i still wet the bed my mum shouts at me all the time she says she gets fed up of me weeing all the time and i need to grow up i have a little sister who is 6 and she stopped weeing the bed when she was 3 her and my mum laugh at me and i get really imbarrased i want to tell her that i want to go to the gp but im scared she would laugh at me and im scared because its imbarrasing





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I am 14 and one time when I was on holiday I wet the bed for no apparent reason. The last time I wet the bed I was about 9 because my reward was going on the school residential. Is this normal? I am going through my GCSES at the moment and that may had triggered it.





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I completely concur with you that parents should not punish or scold their kids for wetting the bed as it is a biological based thing. My sister had the same bed-wetting problem with her son but no deal deal for her now as she bought a bedwetting alarm for him and it worked great for him. I must say that it is one of the most efficacious and safest bed-wetting treatments. http://drybuddy.com/index.php/about-bed-wetting/enuresis-bed-wetting





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Due to an accident I was left with a spinal injury which left me with no night bladder control. I was dry for over 40 years now not so lucky. I wear diapers at night and apart from getting warm in the summer, it saves the bed and bed sheets. I am a teacher and tge children of my class are all between 10 and 11. We discuss issues like ged wetting and nearly every child in my class has wet the bed sometimes or another. I wear diaper during the day and I do let my class know, they all have been little angels. We have a 'No Barriers' were we discuss things that frighten, embaress us and we talk open about bed wetting. So it will stop eventually, use diapers if you want, discuss it with your parents, carers and friends its ok. Take care





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My son wet the bed almost every night until he had his tonsils and adenoids removed at age 10. The ear/nose/throat specialist told us that the way you breath affects how you sleep which affects if you wake up when your bladder is full. Now my son is still wetting the bed occasionally because he still has a problem with his nose ( a deviated septum) but at least we know there is something we can do to solve this problem. I encourage anyone with this problem to get their tonsils checked out by a doctor.





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I am 13 years old-going on 14- and I still wet the bed about 2-4 times a week. It started when I was 10 And I hoped it would go away. By 13 It disappeared for about 1 month and a half but came back. I hate this because I feel terrified about sleepovers and I hate hiding this huge secret. I was on pills that were supposed help and I had to take 4 before bed but my dad took me off them, and he's not letting go back on them. Also my mom says I wet the bed because I'm just to lazy to get up at night, but if I hated having to have the guilt and frustration I don't thing I wouldn't get up at night. Most of the times when I wet the bed I just put a towel over and lie on it (its gross, I know) I have no idea what's wrong with me and why I won just grow out of it. PEASE HELP!





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Hi, it may be worth contacting a chiropractor that uses Sacro-Occipital Technique. My son was still wetting the bed at the age of 7 and we thought that we would try all other options before resorting to medication. The chiropractor said that there was no specific treatment for enuresis but by correcting any problems with the nervous system it could alter the way that the kidneys and bladder work. After about a month of visits to the chiropractor the bed wetting stopped. I don't fully understand how it worked but it did so thank you to the chiropractor.

Dear Ainsley; When I was your age I still bedwet too. It didn't stop until I was fifteen. I was teased terribly, and still have bad memories. I know now that nothing was "wrong with me" I just slept too deep. It's like when someone snores loud. They don't know they are doing it because they are SLEEPING. It's the same sleep that causes kids to wet or grind their teeth or get up and walk around. We don't KNOW we're doing it because we're asleep. I wish I could offer more help, but I do know that Pacific International CAN help. http://www.stopwetting.com/ Of course your parents have to pay for it, but P.I. are a 100 percent company. The way I stopped was I changed my sleep by staying a little awake every night until I could feel that I needed to go, and then I would get up and use the bathroom. I did it in summer so I could always sleep a little later.

my son is 11 and still wets the bed! I am really worried as he stop for awhile but now he is hiding his pull ups from me. I have tried everything. I know there is nothing going on at school as I have talk to his teacher. I have heard that there is a medication that kids can take or a vitamin that the child maybe lacking in!!





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To anyone who has a child that bedwets I would recommend that you go to your GP. Once a child reaches the age of around 7 they view it as a "problem" which can sometimes be helped with treatment. My daughter is prescribed Desmopressin which replaces the hormone which tells the kidneys to slow down urine production when people are asleep. This along with restricting fluids 1 hour before bedtime has really helped. She also suffers with daytime wetting, and is prescribed Oxybutinin which relaxes the bladder and stops it contracting in spasms before it is properly full. There are other treatment options like alarms (this did not work for us as she is a very deep sleeper) and you should be able to access these through your school nurse or GP. Go to the ERIC website to see other options. There are also message boards where other parents will try to help. Good luck xx


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