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    Bedwetting

    Bedwettting, sometimes referred to by doctors as 'enuresis', is one of those awkward, embarrassing, upsetting conditions that can seem to have no specific cause, especially in older kids. Read more →

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    hi, my 3 year old son's penis swells when he goes to the toilet i took him to our GP as i was concerned. it does'nt just swell a little bit the whole thing swells. he has been refered to a urinary consultant at alder hey.

    my daughter is nearly 4 and has been referred to an incontinence clinic, so maybe you should go back to your gp and ask. she was referred by the community paedatrician.

    hi my daughter is 13 she has a incontinence proplem shes had this for a couple of years now she has seen a consultant and doctors shes had tablets for infections witch she get reguler they can seem too come up with any thing she is now gettibg really sore and broken skin all over her bottom and between her legs can you please help mum





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    Hi! I'm a 14 year old girl, and as far I can say, I haven't had any of the aforementioned symptoms of UTI...here's the story: I went to my doctor's for a routine checkup, adn when they tested my urine sample, my doctor came back to me and asked me to do another test. So, three weeks later, I tested again, and this time, they sent it to a lab. I got a glimpse of the test order--the box checked was one for 'urinary culture and sensitivity'. On the bottom of the paper was a handwritten note that went SOMETHING like this: 'DX: ...Leukocutes'. I pressed my dad for answers, but he only said soemthing about glycerin in my urine. I looked up everything on the computer and came across UTI. Could somebody please tell me what's going on, even when nobody else will tell me? Knowing what's wrong would help me in s many ways. Thanks for reading this!





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    Around this age you should be encouraging you son to pull back his foreskin, no-one told me this until my son was 3 and the advice came from my sister (she has 2 older son's) it maybe that the end has become so tight that it has caused the usual shape.

    my son is eight years old and has always wet the bed.even when potty training he was fine to sit on the potty to poo but would need a nappy to wee.he was over 5 before he stopped haveing accidents during the day but the nites havent stopped.we have tryed the sticker charts, night pants,drinking more during the day, drinking less during the day none of these things worked,he has tryed hsving a drink every hour then going to the toilet every hour all this achieved was to make him more embarrassed as the kids at school were asking why he kept going to the toilet. the docter refered him to a pediatrican who dis ultra sound scans of his bladder and urinary tract and also mri scans all of these showed up as normal. any ideas what i can try next





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    hi there, thank God, i thought we were alone, my son is 9 and has only had a dry bed a handful of times, he's had ultra sound scan , all fine, ive done the same as you, charts rewards, more drinks, less drinks, you name it weve done it, hes been on desmomelt tablets that no longer work, keep your chin up !

    i am a kid my self and i still wet the bed and i am 12! i usted to be enbarist but hopefull i will grow out of it. if it dose not get better take hie to you gp and they should refer you to a spechlist

    my 4 year old never makes it to the toilet to poo unless she happens to also need a wee. She says she can't get there quickly enough and so she crosses her legs and tries to withold which obvioulsy makes it worse in long run. I've identified through trial and error that she does much heallthier stools when not eating wheat but its taken so long to identify this that she has been on a range of laxitives over 2 years and most of them just made her go more frequently and as she passes 2-3 substantial stools a day I really don't see that she can be constipated. All the fuss and GPs, cranial osteopaths & kineseaologists & healh visitors has left her really anxious that she won't sort this out for school. She is very advanced in her learning and so most of her friends are already at school and they comment on it. I'm worried that when she starts school this year it could become a massive issue for her. My GP won't give me a referal for a dietician or an incontinence nurse as she is under 5 and so it is just put down to toilet training. All comments/ advice greatfully recieved.





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    my daughter is nearly 4 and has been referred to an incontinence clinic, so maybe you should go back to your gp and ask. she was referred by the community paedatrician.

    I don't know whether this will help, but I wanted to say don't give up-keep nagging the doctors, health visitors etc until you get help. My daughter was the same as a baby when I weaned her from breastmilk onto formula milk-she would only go every 4 days and was in agony on the 4th day. She is now 6years old and has been through witholding and then encopresis and now still soils virtually daily-it's been a nightmare. I'd suggest if your baby is on formula milk, try changing it-my son was atopic (prone to allergies and excema/asthma) and I was advised to change his milk to a 'more gentle' one and it helped and I wish someone had suggested changing my daughter's milk too. I know people would nowadays frown on giving children fruit juice or sugared water (as my daughters 2 Nans advised me to do and I wish I had listened to them) but honestly I would personally do ANYTHING to avoid having a child with encopresis.(I was actually told by the health visitors not to even give her extra water, which now I can't believe I listened to- I understand now they would advise it to be ok to do so). My daugher was also given lactolose and tried this for a bit, but we only saw any progress once we got onto Movicol , so I would push for that as soon as your baby is old enough, if he's not better by then. You could look at the website of E.R.I.C which is a charity which deals with incontinence in children (of whatever sort) -they also have a phone no you can ring and they are really helpful and encouraging and also someone to speak to when it gets you down.

    My husband is 81 and has a pubic catheter. he frequently gets urinary infections and the only real symptoms he gets are extreme weakness and a very strong antiseptic smell about him rather like Lysol. The dr's don't really seem able to deal very well with this problem.





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    Hi my daughter is exactly the same. She is 12 now but we have dealt with this all her life. We are now concerned that there is nothing they can do. She has been told by the urinary clinic to do pelvic floor excercises but this hasnt helped. I feel it is her muscles which aren't working quick enough but dont know what the next steps could be. I know this isn't really any help to you but i wanted you to know that you aren't alone. I hope up get some help for the problem as I hope we do aswell.

    Many men I know did not pull their foreskin back until early 20's. Encourage your child to gently try pulling back regularly at an early age. It is almost impossible for a child to harm their own penis trying this. This will reduce any risk of problems such as urinary tract infections later in their childhood.





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    ive just been reading about bed wetting, my daughter is 6yrs 5mths not only does she wet the bed but she also wets herself during the day every day, this started at the age of 3 and we are at the end of our tether. Shes been seeing an incontinence nurse for over 2 yrs but she just tells us to do star charts but its a waste of time can anyone suggest anything?





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    I did that when I was younger- every day and my mum made me wear tights and she said that they were specialand I couldn't wee in them. It worked! Good luck x

    My daughter is 6yrs 3mths and I guess you would call me lucky as she is dry at night but not during the day. I can't seem to understand it and the doctors don't either. I have tried everything, special underwear/tights, star charts and nothing works. I thought toilet training my younger daughter would help, but no! I have sympathy for you suzanne and also welcome any suggestions.

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    hi i have a nearly 5 year old daughter with same problem, we see a specialist at the incontinence clinic and go through hell with the school.. tryed everything like you have and the relapses keep coming back. how is your daughter now ? emma

    my daughter is 6, been to the incontinence clinc for over a year, been on fibre diets, movicol, senna, had a bladder scan and we have had no positive results so far, its lowered her self confidence, ashamed, makes every day life for us as a family harder etc. i know how frustrated you are as a mum

    This actually sounds to me like autism. ASD ( Autism spectrum disorder)presents very differently in girls than in boys. Go to Autism UK and get some information to arm yourself then take her to the GP and ask for her to be tested. Be prepared for a long wait though as it can take months for the appt to come through. My 9yr old daughter was actually being councelled for her incontinence with CAMHS when they diagnosed her with ASD.

    I am in the same boat, my son is 9, it happened at school in his bed, he is on 2 movicol a day and he still has "accidents" it costs me a fortune in clothes and washing. It took years for me to get anywhere an I only got help through a friend the doctors completely ignored me and refused to help, again nothing medically wrong. They never checked his bowls just took bloods. I'm at my wits end. If he doesn't poo the bed he wets it every night. He won't help himself it's like pulling a stubborn horse and now his incontinence nurse is saying she can't do anymore he has to help himself :( there must be more they an do?!

    my daughter is 6yrs old been attending the hosi for 3yrs they tld me shes gt cronic constipation & pt her on movicol which has nt helped then they pt her on octifibre nw on senacot & still nt wrking she can go 5 days without a poo & the poor thing goes on the toilet herself 2 try way no luck..dnt knw what else 2 do..shes supposed 2 get an incontinence nurse out 4 support bt shes seen her since christmas (as shes 2 busy) bt its nt good enough a need help gud u give me advice....thnks





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    My son is five years old and has attended paediatrician for over two years now with no success whatsoever. He has had movicol,senna and lactulose,lentil soup,prune muffins,you name it he has had it! At the moment we are waiting for a referral for a child psychologist(been waiting since Dec 2011). He will sit on the toilet but as the poo just runs out of him, nothing goes into the toilet so he doesn't seem to connect with why he is sitting on the loo!! Also we were told that children are not prescribed suppositories even though when the problem first occurred our son got one,which worked,so it was a yea for one professional and a nae for another. Help please.

    my daughter is 6, been to the incontinence clinc for over a year, been on fibre diets, movicol, senna, had a bladder scan and we have had no positive results so far, its lowered her self confidence, ashamed, makes every day life for us as a family harder etc. i know how frustrated you are as a mum

    My daughter is 17 in highschool and has incontinence with her bowls and blatter. She will have an accident about 4 times a week in her pants. I go to the doctors and everything but nothing is helping. She's been wetting the bed lately. I have been making her wear goodnites ( night time protective underwear ) so she doesn't keep messing up her sheets. She pooped her pants at her friends house when the were finishing dinner. She's been wearing protective durring the day depending on how many accidents. Please help her and I are both tired of cleaning sheets and getting stains out





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    Our grandaughter has just been diagnosed with NID neuronal intestinal dysplasia which means that she has some cells in her intestinal tract but they don,t work very well. What I,ve read about it is that she will always have problems with pooing and like your daughter will have accidents due to this. You might want to mention this to your doctor but you need to have a biopsy done to confirm it. Hope this helps you

    In reply to Dawn. My daughter is 8 and she wets her knickers every time she does a hearty laugh, I am going to take her to the doctors next week to see if anything can be done. It just seems more of an issue now she is getting a bit older, she goes to friends houses for tea and I am just sat at home worrying that she will wet herself when there, and 99% of the time she does. I have researched on the internet and think it may be something called giggle incontinence, did you hear anything about that on your visits to the doctors? I have thought about getting my daughter to wear tena ladies too, to take a bit of the worry away. I am sorry to hear you are having problems with it too and hope you get it sorted out.





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    I can sympathise with you as my eldest son is 6 years old and is constantly wetting himself during the night, even when I am waking him twice during the night which is tiring for both of us and he also often wets himself during the day. I am worried that something is wrong and also concerned that the smell during the day could cause him problems at school. You have mentioned an incontinence nurse, was this a referal from your own GP? Someone has suggested I now see my GP to ask for blood tests in order to haver everything checked out, have you done this and if so, did it tell you anything? The only answers I got from my Health Visitor a couple of years ago were that he 'would grow out of it' and that they could possibly look at a mat with an alarm which wakes him up when he wets himself but I explained that I wanted to stop that happening so I thought that it was pointless! I also get so many people fobbing me off by saying 'it happens with so many boys for a lot longer' I am desperate for answers.

    My son is now 12 and is still soiling his pants once to twice a day. This has been going on his whole life. We have to been to many specialists. They say it all relates to constipation. Was on parachoc, movicol all those things for years and nothing worked. Used to give him enemas as a little boy, which wasnt pleasant!! He was checked by a neurologist for spina bifida, no idea why. been to incontinence clinics, childrens hospitals, naturapaths, all any one can tell me is its constipation. It happens at school, hes just learnt to except the fact and its not right. He is going to high school next year and I want this fixed. Years ago I was told his sphincta was probably stretched by being constipated for such a long time, but it has never got better, he says he doest feel it. Its embarrasing for him and frustrating, I need someones help!! What can I do?? At the moment were just living day by day dealing with it cause nothing works. Is there some kind of operation to fix it. Hes 12 I dont want him to spend his whole life like this, It cant be healthy, what do I do?????





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    try to get your GP to refer you to hospital, and ask for botox to be injected into his sphincter,(they do it at leicester RI) it should relax his muscles and therefore allow him to pass faeces more easily n painfree, my 5 year old grandson has had this done and YES IT WORKS!! however it doesnt last very long, he has had this done 3 times in all and also needs to ave GA for manual evacuations,he has now been put on a waiting list to have a "MACE" procedure again at leicester RI. this is where his appendix is taken to the outside of his abdomen and twice daily he will have to sit on the toilet for approx 20 mins while a liquid is passed through a catheter to wash out his bowel, sounds very daunting but the hole in his abdomen would be the size of a catheter and weve been informed that it is 85% effective and is also reversable. good luck i sympathise with you and your son.

    there IS AN OPERATION!!!! mt 5 year old grandson has had botox injected into his sphincter under GA, however it doesnt last very long, and hes had to have it done 3 times and also manual evacuations under GA, he is now on a waiting list for a MACE procedure ( wort googleing) it will sound very daunting but its not that bad really, theres 85% sucess rate on this op, we have been assured that the gastro nurses do not let the 15% get away with it not working!!! they do both types of surgery at Leicester royal infirmary, i must add the surgeons are excellent there and the nurses are second to none, very welcomming and although they are run of their feet they ALWAYS have time for you and your child, good luck

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    I know exactly what your going through. My daughter is 7 years old, was dry day and night until she was 4. Now not a day or night goes by when she hasnt wet. She goes through at least 50 pairs of knickers a week. We have been referred to the incontinence nurse after repeatedly going back to the doctors. I have been given an alarm to put on her bed at night, it's like a sheet you lay on the bed with a lead attached to an alarm box. When she wets, the alarm should go off and wake her up. Unfortuantly the alarm tends to go off every time she moves, wet or not which has just resulted in an extemely tired child. The nurse also told us that dark drinks (blackcurrant, coke etc) aggravate the bladder so to cut them out. It's been a 2 months since the nurse's visit, and in all honesty nothing is making a difference. The thing that bugs me is they are only concerned with the night wetting and not the day wetting! It's the day wetting that im struggling with the most - i just dont know what to do and the next review is in September! You are not alone

    my daughter has cracked it! reward charts etc did not work at all. after seeing a doctor at the incontinence clinic, i was told to up the movical to completely clear her out. the doctor showed daisy some pictures of poo and pictures of the process of the the poo (eating food and it going through the digestive system). at home my eldest daughter made a flap book showing a girl eating, it going to her tummy,the food breaking down until the girl sits on the potty and does a poo and is smiling after and shows everyone.There isn't any books that actually show the poo coming out and going into a toilet so i think this helped.I also took her to the science museum where there is a toilet that flushes showing a "poo". I took box of toys into the toilet and after lunch i would sit in there with her for about half an hour playing with the toys while she sat on the toilet, we talked about pushing it out and that you have to let it all out( she used to let tiny bits out at a time so that i could be constant).I removed the potty as before this i was letting her take it into other rooms. I don't know what made her suddenly "click" with it but i hope that this might help someone because i really understand what it's like

    my daughter aged nearly 4 has had soiling problems since before potty training. I have been to the gp and seen 2 consultants at hospitals. The gp was helpful, she prescribed the movical and referred me, but i found the consultants a waste of time. one said that she suffered from mild constipation and was not concerned and to keep on trying with the potty training, the other made me feel useless by telling me i wasn't trying enough and to make her sit on the potty or toilet for a long time. i had pushed to be referred both times with referrals being lost. my daughter can soil constantly throughout the day and when on movical it gets even more runny but the same amount comes out each day and even if i sit her on potty or toilet every hour she will still have soiled in her knickers or pullups. i have pushed for an xray and a scan to make sure there is no physical problems and am waiting for her to have these, but they didnt want to give these, surely these children should be examined to make sure there isn't any underlining problems? i am now waiting for an appointment for her to be seen at the incontinence clinic. the problem i also have is that as she is in part time nursery, i put her in pullups but find she will wee in them as well as soil.i don't want to confuse her but when in knickers she will just sit in it and it leaks through onto her clothes, this i can handle at home but i don't think its fair on her or the others if she leaves marks on chairs etc.





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    hi my son is nearly 4 and he is having the same problems he also gets a sore bum sometimes, he been to pediatricians and they took poo samples that all, they wouldn't do any test which ive asked for they said he will grow out of it but he gets really upset if we ask him to go to the toilet for a poo, they made me feel the same and i don't know what to do anymore please let me know if u get anywhere thanks u

    my daughter has cracked it! reward charts etc did not work at all. after seeing a doctor at the incontinence clinic, i was told to up the movical to completely clear her out. the doctor showed daisy some pictures of poo and pictures of the process of the the poo (eating food and it going through the digestive system). at home my eldest daughter made a flap book showing a girl eating, it going to her tummy,the food breaking down until the girl sits on the potty and does a poo and is smiling after and shows everyone.There isn't any books that actually show the poo coming out and going into a toilet so i think this helped.I also took her to the science museum where there is a toilet that flushes showing a "poo". I took box of toys into the toilet and after lunch i would sit in there with her for about half an hour playing with the toys while she sat on the toilet, we talked about pushing it out and that you have to let it all out( she used to let tiny bits out at a time so that i could be constant).I removed the potty as before this i was letting her take it into other rooms. I don't know what made her suddenly "click" with it but i hope that this might help someone because i really understand what it's like

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    Please get him a 2nd opinion! My son's "Constipation" started at 22 months, he is now 14. The ONLY treatment Drs want to give is Movical, its a very lazy and cheap alternative to actually investigating the condition properly! Problem is if just one DR says it "Constipation", in my experience any subsequent doctors follow the first diagnosis to avoid under-mining the initial doctors assessment. By now my son would have been on Movical (A VERY strong Laxative) for 12 years! I was told he would grow out of it and that he was deliberately 'with-holding' to get my attention ... here we are 14 years later, same problem so Hogwash in my view. Your son's life must be pretty miserable as an incontinent teenager, it is for my son. I don't know if your son is receiving any treatment(s) but we are looking into a 'new' treatment where the anus is botoxed: sounds horrendous but it does make some sense .. it allow the waste to come out, preventing further damage to the colon and as the botox wears off (over 3 months)the child gradually regains control of the anus muscle(?) and can re-learn how to poo. In reality it means 6-8 weeks of total incontinence and 4 to 6 weeks where the child will start to regain sensation/control. I figured this procedure is only possible if it could be done at the beginning to July, endure the worst over the school holidays with a 'break-through' by the start of the School term in September. I don't know if there is anyone (on here) who has agreed to this procedure for their child and had good results, but might be worth discussing with your GP?

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